What’s your favorite personality-typing system? Myers-Briggs? Enneagram? The Four Tendencies?
This INFP, 9w1 (or 2-7-9, depending on whether you follow the wing or tritype system of the Enneagram) Obliger prefers something a little … geekier.
It’s the Dungeons & Dragons alignment chart.
I find myself constantly typing the actions of others, and of myself, through this handy grid. The designation of “lawful,” “neutral,” and “chaotic” refers to how your actions are seen and interpreted by external forces. “Good,” “neutral,” and “evil” refer to your internal motivations. Although our actions can fall into any one of these categories, we can generalize our motives and actions and thus land in one of these boxes.
Honestly, the alignment chart works for almost any situation.
And my personal favorite:
(Recently, my husband and I watched a woman in a parking lot angrily hurl her shopping cart into a corral. We looked at each other, shrugged, and said: “Chaotic good.”)
Most of my actions fall pretty squarely into Lawful Good. I’m not the most exciting person in the room, but I tend to see the best in people and always try to do the right thing. I’d like to think that I’m a good person to have in your corner. Also, I admit that I am a rule-follower to a degree that annoys others. I do, in fact, almost always return my shopping carts to the store. Such a teacher’s pet.
All of these personality-typing frameworks can help you begin the process of finding some insight into yourself. If you begin this process and bump up against some uncomfortable thoughts and scenarios, feel free to book a free consultation with me to see whether Reiki or Trauma Touch Therapy might help, or whether I can point you toward someone who can.
Be well, healthy, and whole!